The topic of chivalry was recently touched upon in a couple other posts, and it is easy to see the obligations for men, from small to great, but are there any reciprocal obligations for women under chivalry? If so, what are they?
A month ago I came across a post by Doug Wilson on Christian schools
in which he states
Parents should want, and the board of the school should insist upon, an environment where the differences between boys and girls are recognized and honored, and where they have a very public place in the consciousness of all. The manners and customs of the school should demand it. For example, establish little customs like girls exiting the classroom first, and then the boys. Encourage boys to hold the door open for girls. You know, all the things that feminism taught us to sneer at.
I found it notable that no examples of expectations for girls are provided, for which I do not fault for Wilson since it was not the main point of his post. But it got me thinking: what customs should girls follow to recognize and honor the differences between girls and boys? Or are there no customs that girls need follow? Or no customs that women need follow?
Here’s why I think it is an important topic to explore. Throughout my life there has been a push to open male-dominated spaces to women for the purpose of equality while simultaneously demanding accommodation for the different nature and condition of women. This perceived double standard provoked resentment in me as a young man, whether justified or not, and I believe it drives much of the bitterness of the Manosphere that has been touched upon in a couple other posts. I think it is accurate to say that Evangelical Christianity and traditional conservatism have largely made their peace with feminism, whether they realize it or not, such that calls for chivalrous behavior on the part of men will fall on increasing deaf ears because no one likes one-way obligations. Indeed, the WLC teaches that obligations are two-way, although often not equivalent.
So going back to my original question, are their obligations for women under chivalry, and if so, what are they? Any ideas out there?