One other contributor to the errors we now have to deal with: (I am trying to sharpen up my own thinking here, so would welcome comment & criticism).
Every pastor, over time, will have had to deal with singles who can’t get married (for any number of reasons). Now, while celibacy may not be commended for these people, continence certainly is. And simply, for many people, marriage may not be possible, gift of celibacy or not.
The mistake too many pastors have made, is that when someone has presented to them as being homosexually inclined, they (the pastors) have put them in the same ‘boat’ as straight singles who can’t marry. Presumably, issues of underlying inclination have been put in the far-too-hard basket.
Finally, being heterosexual isn’t a sufficient condition for godliness (otherwise, any straight person would be godly), but it is a necessary condition. Is this a helpful way to express things?