New Warhorn Media post by Tim Bayly:
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When I heard of these scandals this morning, I told my wife I believe this father is deep in pornography. There is simply no other explanation for a Christian father allowing such moral degradation in his home unless he himself has, by his own sin, become inured to moral degradation, thereby losing his capacity to recognize it and take the most basic steps to protect God’s little ones in his own home.
Indeed, sadly. I’m thankful for perceptive men who have observed seemingly unrelated problems, like procrastination, and identified sexual sin as a root cause.
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Care to elaborate on this further? Are you saying what often looks like simple procrastination is really inordinate time spent watching pornography, or is there some more deeply-rooted connection?
Edit: Didn’t realize this was 11 months old. It popped up as a “suggested topic” and I read it for the first time.
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No worries about resurrecting an old topic. This one is about as evergreen as they get! 
The short answer to your question is, “yes”. If you see a dude who is lazy, he’s probably also giving himself to sexual sin.
I wouldn’t say, “simple procrastination is really inordinate time spent watching pornography…” Instead I would say that the one sin, laziness, is a brother to the other, lust, and that they hang out together.
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Lucas formulated it well. I wasn’t thinking of spending so many hours watching pornography that work can’t get done, though I’m sure that it happens. I was thinking of how, when someone is protecting lust, they are changing into a different person. Sort of building a shell around the sin with themselves in it, to protect it. The world will tell you about how pornography is bad because it reduces desire to engage with the world, but it’s more than that, it’s refusing to do things that might lead to becoming the kind of person who might give up the sin. That can look like procrastination, but if all the procrastination advice is applied, the man will eventually find himself staring at his deeper sinful desire and recoil from killing the sin because the sin is stronger and more alluring than the desire to “become productive.”
There are Christian men with the gift of wisdom who can see all that happening and intervene with the right words. And I have seen it happen in a business setting where saying so was completely off topic, out of line, inappropriate, probably a fireable offense–but it drove the man to a long period of repenting that led to real battle with the sin, and as a consequence of being saved from his desire to continue sinning he did become more reliable.
Anyway, that’s what I was thinking of–there are probably so many permutations of this sin and God has put the Bible, pastors and wise older men in place for all of them…
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