First, welcome Mike! Great to have you. Thanks for starting this good discussion!
Let’s go back to population. It must be absolutely killed in every discussion of fecundity and childbearing, pagan or Christian. Fact is, when you fly across the US, what you see is nature—not man. It’s all farms and wilderness, and it’s not even Western Texas or Utah or North Dakota, let alone Alaska. The same is true everywhere around the world. If we decide to say Texas can give an average family a tenth of an acre, and not half an acre, that change is insignificant. Have you men seen what every family around the world does with a few hundred square feet of land behind their house? Ride European trains and look out your window. Backyard gardens abut RR tracks everywhere. Or just go to any Asian’s apartment or house which has no more than fifty square feet of backyard, like over in Orchard Glen near Trinity Reformed in Bloomington. It’s incredible what Asians do with 100 square feet of soil! Everything grows vertically.
Specifically, a family of four needs at most an 800 square foot garden to sustain itself year-round. This is less than two-tenths of an acre.
But let’s say everyone doesn’t actually want to live in Texas, but would prefer Manhattan. If so, Manhattan’s population density is around 60,000 p/square mile, so everyone could fit in Ukraine—at a population density of Manhattan Island.
The point is all the talk of population crisis has always (since Thomas Malthus) been abt rich moralistic people trying to stave off poor people who breed, feeling the threat they pose just as Pharaoh felt the threat of the Hebrews. It’s my observation that couples arguing over whether or not to have more children (although they would never lower themselves to say they “argue” over it) usually have one selfish person wanting to stop working so hard and another who takes joy in new life. This is the reason I don’t believe in approaching the issues of euthanasia (follow me here), infanticide, abortion, or childbearing (birth control) from the calculations attached to the concept of stewardship.
I too regret we didn’t have more children, although we didn’t make any actual decision to stop, but almost anyone who is making that decision would be godly and wise to stop making that decision. If we can’t imagine God’s people from any prior generation in history thinking the thoughts we think, particularly about sexuality, it’s extremely unlikely our thoughts are godly or wise.
I know this stuff is hard while you’re still of childbearing age, and I most certainly don’t take the feeding and care and instruction and discipline of children lightly, but many things Christians today think they need to think carefully about or decide would be incomprehensible to our mothers and fathers in the Faith of all previous generations, so likely they aren’t the stupid ones.
BTW, spent time on the Bernina Express yesterday with Mary Lee discussing what education is, what is needed and by which children preparing for which callings in life, what Scripture says about it, what sort of intellectual training and discipline pastors need, etc. Love,