Thank you, Pastor Tim.
I hope the post helps - both pastors who think the cause is lost and for men such as myself who either don’t know or don’t care that they have embraced effeminacy. The depths of my sin of effeminacy reached further than I divulged in that post - I gave an overview of the in- and outbound trajectories but glossed over the trough of it. I expect that I will have more to say on my personal experience with effeminacy on other occasions.
What I hope readers glean is first that not properly translating and preaching on 1 Cor. 6:9 has tangible consequences and second that effeminacy is not camp - it leads to it, but only after a capitulation. Camp, or effeminate affectation, is put on to signal the role you occupy in a relationship (romantic or otherwise). A man has not avoided effeminacy if he is physically strong, bearded, or ostensibly positioned as the patriarch of his own family; effeminacy must be battled at its root.
The root of effeminacy is a man’s refusal to take on the mantle (read: his responsibilities) of his sex. It is, to reference a famous woman of fiction, a desire to be unsexed: probably not (usually) consciously, given its prevalence, but I would argue that my generation’s widespread decline in marriage rates, in fertility rates, in its precipitous drop-off in net worth (i.e.; not owning a home, especially) is because men have abdicated their responsibility to be men. I did.
What’s more is that our society’s egalitarian mandate has preached the negative consequences of men ceding their manhood - that is, men need to give up rights for the sake of women’s equality - but men seem to only o along with it since intuiting that if we don’t have those rights, we needn’t shoulder the attendant responsibilities that grant them! All of the feminist head-scratching about how a woman might “have it all,” and it seems to have dawned on few that this was the tradeoff. Rights are bought with responsibilities. The effeminate man is glad to see his rights go if only you’ll take some responsibility with you.