Hi Johnny,
First, welcome to the forum.
I believe what Jackson is getting at is that it’s not really compelling or useful to say things like, “I don’t understand why people would even want to do this. I can’t believe you people are even spending this much time talking about it. This should just be commons sense to anyone with a sound mind,” and then speak dismissively of everyone for even having the conversation as being “horny ppl.” This isn’t exactly a model of constructive discourse, dear friend, and you’re not really making any arguments.
When you say, “Come on ppl God gave you a sound mind if you’re asking these questions,” you seem to suggest that we shouldn’t be asking questions that God himself, in the Scriptures, would have us to consider. You’re alleging that folks evidence a lack of sound mind for asking the questions, but I would submit to you that taking the Scriptures seriously is evidence of a sound mind, seeking to be renewed to think as God would have them to think. After all, you are correct when you conclude that there are horny people out there, so wouldn’t those horny people do well to care about and learn what God says about their horniness?
The texts in question deal with far more than sex, itself. As the discourse of this thread demonstrated well (if you take the time to read it), understanding what is involved in the design of the woman’s menstruation forces us to consider what blood even is, what it teaches us about Adam’s race, what it demonstrates about God, sin, and atonement, etc. And as we consider these things with a sober mind – understanding the corruption of our race, our need for a Savior, etc. – it will inform our sexual ethics, as well.
You might reply, “Well the Bible says it’s wrong so that should be the end of it.” Well, the Levitical law says it’s wrong, but here we must be careful. Scripture does not permit us to simplistically carry forward every letter of the Levitical law into the New Covenant – hence the importance of the discussion. Do we understand this part of the Levitical law as being applicable to the church, or not? By what standard do we determine what to apply and not apply? It isn’t enough to appeal to “common sense.” Common sense only goes so far in the discussion, since you need only look around you in this present age to see that the common sense of the age – even in many evangelical churches, which embrace some form of no-fault divorce and remarriage – is very far from anything resembling biblical sexuality. The only decisive guiding ethics in the common sense of the day are “consent” and “does it feel good?” and if you’re a Christian, maybe throw in, “does the New Testament explicitly condemn it?” (notice that word explicitly is vital).
Sex is a really good thing, Johnny. It has also been used very powerfully as a vehicle for sin, and not everyone is going to innately think about it the same way you do. People have sinned and have been sinned against in so many varieties of ways when it comes to sex, with the net result that people very commonly have their consciences and their desires badly calibrated when it comes to understanding what godly sexuality looks like. There are women who find sex itself to be gross, who withhold themselves from their husbands. There are women who actually desire sex more during their period and feel guilty about it, because they aren’t sure if they should or not. There are men who use their wife’s period as an opportunity to have her satisfy his desire in other ways – ways which cause her to be conflicted in her conscience. There are some husbands and wives who have never given a second thought to having sex during the woman’s period, and it doesn’t bother either of them at all. Meanwhile, there are men and women who find nothing at all to be gross in the bedroom, and indulge themselves together in a kind of sensuality that – while “consensual” – many Christians throughout the ages would condemn under the umbrella of sodomy. And all of these various kinds of men and women have had their consciences and desires calibrated by what they’ve been taught, or haven’t been taught, by what they’ve seen in movies and pornography, by how they were or weren’t abused as children, etc.
How will we blow through the fog? By seeking diligently and sober-mindedly to rightly divide the word of God. Only then can we have confidence that we are speaking the counsels of God, and not just our own opinions.
We should all strive to be men who are slow to simply report our own opinions (Proverbs 18:2).